Monday, April 22, 2013

It's a boy!

So we had a baby boy on April 19 :) All went well, and we cannot be thankful enough for that.

Although it is not very "relate"able, we believe it is my mother in law's soul come back - if it was a baby girl, that would have been more "obvious" :) And we now have two boys, the first shares his birth date with his Dad and the second shares his birth month with his Mom :) Also, both are now "Navami" boys, the older one was born during the Navratris on Maha Navami and the younger one was born on Ram Navami :)

I don't know what made me go through another C-section willingly, but I am glad the worst part of the experience is over and behind us. Now the recovery process only gets better with time. But yes, I hate the epidural and the surgery - hate it! This time around though, the pain is not as worse as it was last time partly because, to accommodate the demands of two kids, I decided to continue the pain-killer unlike last time where I was off it by day 2.

Two kids is a new experience. People say effort grows exponentially, but I am hoping it won't make us mad :) It is a little funny now - suddenly the older one looks "really old".

The son (older one) has taken it well so far. This experience brought two firsts for me and him - we spent the first night away from each other in his 3.5 year life-time - he at home and me in the hospital. It was something I was wondering about all along - how we would deal with it. I was too zonked out to deal with it I guess, and he took it well too, although both days before going home he insisted for a long time that we should all go together. So that is how it was, the first experience of being away from each other- ever. Second one, was today, when he went to the child care center in my office by himself with his Dad. He has never ever gone without me dropping him off - and he has been going there for ~2.5 years! I was feeling a little odd - he was saying, I should also come since last night itself, but when the time came, he said "bye amma, bye thammu (younger bro)", got into the car and left. He has always been and continues to be an amazingly well-behaved infant, toddler and kid, and now older brother :) Sometimes he says "Amma, I want to be with you" and I hate to tell him, it will just be a little longer before the stitches completely heal and we can rough it out like before.

I got my wish of having two boys :) I now get to enjoy my status as only woman in the house till the sons get married and I have daughters-in-law! :) Everyone said I was crazy, hoping for the second one to be a boy, too many boys in the house etc. maybe soon, they will drive me crazy too ;) But I am happy :)

As always, glad to have mom, dad and father-in-law around. It is help we so often tend to take for granted, but the thought of just me and Subhash going through the last three days, is enough to make me realize, how much their help needs to be valued. Who is cooking, who is shopping for groceries, who is managing the logistics around the house, it is all one blur. Because they all chip in and help and help amazingly well with a complete non-complaining attitude. This is probably why families were made. I hope to be an equally good support system for them too :)

And oh yes, we just got news that my sisters' move to Bangalore is confirmed :) So, the cousin joins the merry gang of boys!!! Yay!!

14 comments:

Jyothy Heda said...

Beautiful, congratulations for the new addition in to the family:)

DivSu said...

Thank you @Jyothy Heda! :)

Anonymous said...

Do you intend to continue working in the IT field. It sounds scary with a IT job and 2 kids .

Vishnuprakash said...

Very Nice ... Congratulations :-) All the best wishes !!

Sandhya said...

Congratulations Divya!! Loved reading your post, as always!! Rohan is now the big B!
Take care of yourself and wishing you a speedy recovery.

Luv to Rohan and the new super star.

DivSu said...

@anonymous - yes, of course. I've nursed my career for far longer than either of my kids for me to give it up:)

DivSu said...

Thanks Vishnu!!

DivSu said...

Thank you so much Sandhya!!

Kalyani said...

Congratulations Divya !
Hope you will have a speedy recovery and enjoy with ur sons !

DivSu said...

Thank you so much Kalyani!

Chaitra Chandrashekar said...

Congratulations Divya. :) Take good care of yourself :)

DivSu said...

Thank you so much Chaitra!

Anonymous said...

The costs are spiraling in India - especially in the education dept. What made you go for another child. Has India become a country where ex-NRI's can afford to have more than one. while the rest juggle companies closing and worrying about home loans and education of one child.

DivSu said...

Anonymous - I am just going to have to ignore that comment :)

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